Having Marriage Trouble is no fun,
sometimes you must do the opposite of what you think.
When you have marriage trouble nothing else seems to matter. Nothing hurts worse than feeling cheated or lied to, and I know both of those only too well. My marriage trouble had been going on for several years. My relationship with my wife was taking downturns, up turns, going sideways and backwards. It wasn't until later that I came to the conclusion or understanding, it wasn't working. It's because she didn't want to be there. You would think this would be easy to see. But when you're in love, nothing is easy to see. You're just much too close to your own situation. All you want is to fix your marriage troubles. If you've tried everything else and nothing seems to work. This may be your last resort; you have to let them go. I can feel the churning in my own stomach right now. This is a scary time, but sometimes it's the only thing that you can do. I was holding on with both hands for the longest time, and we did have some very good times, but the thought that was dwelling in her head would not go away. She just didn't want to be married anymore. And until she finds out for herself, she wasn't going to be satisfied. If that’s how your partner feels, there's not much you can do about it.
My wife and I were separated for over a year and a half before she came back for the first time. She only did that because we were running low on money. All the time she was gone, we interacted daily, mainly because of our kids. This made her feel like she never really had the separation she wanted. Looking back, I should have just let her live her own life and stayed out of it. But I was afraid that I would lose her. That brings me to the point of this page. If you're hearing things like that, let them go. It may be the only thing you can do to keep her from leaving for ever. Please understand that there is no guarantee in this. Just like what you’re facing right now, there will be no guarantees. Nobody can give you the answers. You just have to follow your heart and do what you believe is best. These are my thoughts I’m giving you, not answers. There are no real answers when it comes to your love and relationships. Nobody can predict what the outcome will be, but because people like me have been through the same thing. Sometimes when we look back at are relationships, we can give you answers that you may not see otherwise.
I hope the information I put in this website is helpful to some of you. This is my way of giving back to the many people that have shared their lives with me and their stories. A friend of mine told me that I have a Ph.D. in marriage troubles. I figure that must stand for pain, heartache and despair. Not the education I was looking for. On a brighter note; all of which I have learned has made me a better person. If you take all the pain and the suffering you'r going through and learn from it. It will do the same for you, whether your marriage works or not, you will come out of this better. I know it's hard to see that right now, but eventually you will. I'm adding to this website daily so if you have questions or topics that I need to discuss. Please let me know, your input is very important. And I cannot do this without you.
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