Some Divorce Advice?
It's never too late to stop a divorce.

Divorce advice is something we could all use at times.  We look at divorce, as some sort of cure-all pill.

From what I have learned, this is completely false, divorce puts you no closer to happiness than you were.

Our society has become accustomed to disposable things.  This includes marriages.  And I'm sure there are some marriages that need to be dissolved, but it's not a high percentage and it's deftly not 50%.  It is my belief that most marriages could probably be saved.  Just take the time to understand what is happening to your marriage.

I will be the first to admit, I thought divorce would be the easy way out several times.  But the more I read and understood, the less I felt this way.  The Internet has helped me in many ways. I've read lots of stories about different relationships, some exactly like mine. I came to understand that what was happening to me happens to millions of people every day.

You only have to open your ears and listen to what these people say. Or do what I did, go online and read some of the forms.  I will caution you, there are lots of people giving bad divorce advice. They are quick to tell you they would leave their spouses if they were you.  Most of them are very angry and hate their spouses.  If you want to be like them take their advice, if not don't.

The best divorce advice anyone can give you is to make sure that you exhaust every effort to fix your marriage.  What does this mean?  It means when you think all is hopeless, and that divorce is imminent.  You should step back and give it one more year.  That doesn't mean putting your life on hold; you should live life to its fullest.  But you can do this without getting a divorce.

That's something we should probably talk about, living life.  If you are out looking for a new partner, would you look for somebody who seems sad and depressed, would you want somebody who is full of life, happy-go-lucky and made you feel alive?  I think you probably already see my point.  Nobody wants somebody who seems depressed.  So go out and do what makes you feel good, and be happy. 

You don't need a wife or husband to do this.  If you like sports play sports, to be like theater go see a play.  You don't have to search for a new partner to do this.  There's plenty of clubs or groups you could get involved with, whatever you do don't sit home alone, that it's not an attraction to anyone.

I need to give you a little more of my history.  I had been married once before, it didn't last very long, may be four years.  We did have one child, a baby girl who I love and adore.  My wife at that time decided she was too young to be married.  And I felt pretty much the same as I do now.  I didn't believe in divorce then and I still don't.

Back then, I was not nearly as patient as I am today.  Age has a way of mellowing us like a fine wine.  Anyway, I made lots of mistakes.  I had forgotten many of these mistakes until my current marriage started to sour.  I remember waking up one night, thinking this is happening to me again.  Now I have three kids, not just one.  And I didn't want to see my other two kids going through the same thing as my first.  I did not want to relive that part of my life.

I started remembering what had happened to me in the past.  Hopefully being smarter, I might change my future.  You are going to benefit from my wisdom.  You have heard people will relive their past.  I am living proof that this happens, but it doesn't have to be.   

If you can step back and see, it is possible to change your course.  You must change how you react, and you get to use my past experience. 

The first thing you must do is figure out what your part is in all of this.  If you could change the things you've done in the past, you can change or future.  And you can do it without any help from your spouse.

If you want another good piece of divorce advice, it can cost you $15-$3000 for a divorce.  I can't think of a better reason to try to work things out. 

The best divorce advice you could get, try to avoid it.  

If you run into any questions that you would like to ask me.  Please feel free to e-mail me, if I don't know the answer, I will help you find one. Good luck and God bless. 

The best divorce advice I ever received, was from an elderly couple who had been married for 30 years. The gentleman said to me,” if you don't want to be divorced, don't get a divorce”. This struck me as a little strange at first but those words echo in my head. Just don't get divorced, great advice from a very wise man. He went on to tell me, it was lucky for them. Neither one of them wanted to get divorced at the same time.

If you want another good piece of divorce advice, it can cost you $15-$3000 for a divorce. I can't think of a better reason to try to work things out.

The best divorce advice you could get, try to avoid it.

If you run into any questions that you would like to ask me. Please feel free to e-mail me, if I don't know the answer, I will help you find one. Good luck and God bless.

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