Have Children And Divorce Is Being Considered,
take a deep breath and think over your options.
Questions that always come up are children and divorce. If you have children you have probably thought of this many times, I know I have.
Or maybe you are wondering what to say to your kids. Before you say anything to your children, be very sure.
It's strange but our emotions have a way of steering us in directions we really don't want to go.
Things you say in the heat of the moment are not necessarily what you'll feel tomorrow.
Good divorce advice would be,don't speak before you think.
I'm not asking you to stay together for your children. I will say if you love your kids, give them every opportunity to have parents that live in harmony with each other. I'm sure my wife and I each thought about getting a divorce a thousand times. Thank God neither one of us actually went through with it.
Lots of people say children are resilient, I agree they are. That does not keep them from feeling that hurt and torment that stems from children and divorce. I hear things like, the kids will be better off if we're not fighting in front of them. Then don't fight in front of your kids ever, nor should you ever use them to hurt the other. You are both their parents, never make them choose sides. Always let them know that you love them, and they have no fault in what is happening to your marriage.
We spend all kinds of money and time, getting our kids the things we think that they'll want. We signed them up for football, basketball, music lessons. We'll save money all our lives to send them to the finest schools. All this we do, because we want our kids to have good futures. What's really the most important thing, is it a good job or a good marriage. The only way that they will learn how wonderful life can be, is if we show them with our examples. Why don't we think it's important, to teach them how to have good relationships. Right now you're hurting more than you probably ever have in your life. It has nothing to do with your job or your schooling. It's because your relationship is damaged and in distress.
If you have children and divorce is being considered,slow down.
Teach them how to repair a relationship,not end one, it will be the most important lesson they will ever learn.
Believe it or not, you're teaching your kids how they will handle their relationships by the way they view yours. The choice is simple, you can teach them how to quit, or how to have loving and respectful relationships. Unfortunately the only way they will learn this, is your examples…. So don't give up!
I mentioned before the kids were our glue. The thought of showing my kids how to make it through their relationships, is what keep me going, I do not want to show my kids how to quit.
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